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Crisis Hotline

1-866-427-4747

www.crisisclinic.org

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Suicide Hotline

1-800-273-8255

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Prevention/Intervention Specialist st NCHS

https://www.nsd.org/Page/35744


From the NCHS Counseling website:

Northshore School District provides a one-day a week Prevention/Intervention Specialist in the secondary schools. This specialist is a certified chemical dependency counselor. The counselor provides a wide array of services including prevention education for students, staff and families, prevention clubs and activities and confidential counseling for students who may be affected by alcohol, tobacco or other drugs (directly or indirectly).

Students may participate in these activities by self, staff or parent referral. Although in Washington state minors ages 13 and older may access substance abuse services without parent permission we encourage students to involve their parents. Parents are essential partners in keeping children safe and healthy. Students who violate the school’s tobacco, alcohol and drug policies will be referred to the prevention/intervention specialist for follow-up.

To contact the Prevention/Intervention counselor, call the school's counseling office.

13 Reasons Why Season 2, Discussion and Resources

13 Reasons Why Season 2 Discussion and Resources

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 If you have not heard of 13 Reasons Why, it is a Netflix series that examines a female student’s suicide and sexual assault and the many students and adults involved in the girl’s life. We will be giving you some information to help you be more aware of what your student may be watching and resources if you or your student need help. As a school, we do not encourage or discourage students from watching this show. We want to make aware of the serious content that impacted many students last year during Season 1.

Netflix releases the entire season at one time.  Therefore, we want parents/guardians and staff to be aware that many students may be watching multiple episodes or the entire season in a very short time span. Netflix now has a disclaimer before each season acknowledging that the show covers difficult topics and explains how to get help.  Experts all recommend that parents ask their student to not binge-watch the season. Ideally, if a student watches this show, an adult would watch it with them. 13 Reasons Why has many heavy topics, including suicide and sexual assault.  Watching all of this at one time for anyone can be overwhelming, especially for preteens and teens. Taking time to discuss what your student is watching is very important. Ideally, if a student watches this show, an adult would watch it with them. Below you will find a website resource for discussion questions.

We want all parents to know that suicidal ideation and any kind of sexual harassment, including sexual assault, is taken very seriously at North Creek.  In the case of suicidal ideation, self harm, or suicide attempt, parents are notified. If there is risk of a suicide attempt or an attempt has been made, the principal will also be contacted and district protocol will be followed.  In the case of sexual harassment or sexual assault, parents of all involved will be notified. If appropriate, the police, and/or emergency services will be contacted. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact your student’s school counselor. We take every report seriously and want all students to feel supported and safe.

Local Resources:

24-HOUR CRISIS LINE: 866-4-CRISIS

(866-427-4747)

800-621-4636 (M-F 8am-6pm)

TEEN LINK: 866-833-6546

(EVENINGS 6-10pm)

Below you will find information directly from the 13 Reasons Why information page. The information covers discussion questions, topics covered in the show, warning signs, and resources. Please contact your student’s counselor if you have any questions or concerns you want to discuss:

Thank you from your North Creek Counseling Team – Heatherjoy Boi, Tiffany Frane, Samantha Lundberg, Kayla Francisco, and Nancy Vela. 

All information below is from the 13 Reasons Why Information Page

(http://13reasonswhy.info/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/13-Reasons-Why-Season-1-Discussion-Guide.compressed.pdf)

Depression, suicide, and sexual assault, among other things, are discussed in the series. Below are tips and information to help when discussing these issues:  

Depression

*It’s important to encourage open dialog about mental health. Mental health challenges are commonplace and often have onset during the teen or young adult years.

*In the case of the most common mental health condition, depression is a serious illness that causes symptoms that can interfere with one’s ability to study, work, sleep, eat and enjoy life. Some signs of depression include: Persistent sadness, decreased energy, overwhelming fatigue, feelings of hopelessness or helplessness, loss of interest in hobbies or daily activities, difficulty concentrating, changes in sleeping patterns, other atypical behaviors for the person such as agitation, irritability or anger outbursts.

*If you think that you may be struggling with depression, seek help from a counselor, pediatrician or mental health professional– if you are a teen, talk to a trusted adult to help you get the help you need right away.

Self-Harm and Suicide

*While 13 Reasons Why portrayed a suicide death that already occurred, it’s important to know that suicide is known to be a tragic but often preventable health outcome. The vast majority of people who face the challenges portrayed in 13 Reasons Why find ways to be resilient. •

*There’s no single cause for suicide. Suicide most often occurs when stressors and health issues converge to create an experience of hopelessness or despair.

*Depression is the most common condition associated with suicide and it is often undiagnosed or undertreated. Conditions like depression, anxiety and substance abuse, especially when left unaddressed, can increase risk of suicide. But, most people who actively manage their mental health lead fulfilling lives.

*Don’t be afraid to have a conversation about mental health and suicide—it doesn’t increase the risk or plant the idea in someone’s head. But it is helpful to invite conversations about feelings, thoughts and perspectives. •

*If someone you know is distressed, don’t judge or minimize their problems. Be patient, kind and practice active listening skills. Offer to help them get professional help.

*Look out for possible warnings signs of increased suicide risk:

  • Changes in behavior, especially during a painful event, loss or life transition
  • Talking about harming or killing oneself
  • Expressing feelings of hopelessness, feeling trapped
  • Increased alcohol or drug use
  • Withdrawing from activities, isolating from family and friends
  • Feelings of depression, anxiety, loss of interest, humiliation, rage
  • Sometimes people avoid reaching out to someone who may be struggling with mental health, but just having a conversation can make all the difference in helping them to feel connected and supported. Often, it’s the first step toward getting what could be life-saving help.
  • If you feel you are at risk or suspect a child, friend or loved one is thinking about suicide, talk to a trusted adult or reach out to a resource such as a hotline or text line to talk to someone who can help.

Bullying

  1. Bullying is repeated aggressive behavior in which one person in a position of power deliberately threatens, abuses or harms another person physically or emotionally.
  2. In 13 Reasons Why, bullying is demonstrated in several forms— physical, verbal, social isolation. Whatever the form, it can be helped by speaking to a trusted adult—a parent, teacher or school counselor.
  3. Some people may think talking to someone is tattling but it is important to alert trusted adults about issues that may cause harm to oneself or to someone else.
  4. Because the characters in 13 Reasons Why play different roles in the various bullying scenarios, these scenes offer a chance to consider how—by playing a different role— bullying can be prevented.
  5. Those who Assist: they don’t start the bullying behavior, but they encourage bullying and occasionally join in.
  6. Those who Reinforce: they aren’t directly involved in the bullying but they’re part of the audience, sometimes laughing or supporting the bullying.
  7. Those who Defend: they come to the defense of the person being bullied and offer comfort.
  8. Outsiders: they don’t reinforce the bullying behavior, nor do they defend the child being bullied.

Sexual Assault

  1. Sexual assault, or unwanted sexual contact, is a theme in several episodes of 13 Reasons Why, providing an opportunity to open a dialogue about issues related to consent, ongoing harassment and peer pressure.
  2. For clarity, sexual assault can include:

  • Rape: when a person does not or is unable to physically or mentally consent to sex and is threatened with force
  • Sexual coercion: when someone makes you feel obligated to say yes to a sexual activity by using guilt, pressure, drugs/alcohol or force.
  • Sexual harassment: includes unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors and verbal or physical harassment of a sexual nature in the workplace or school setting. It can also occur in public in the form of catcalling, stalking, groping.
  • Remember that consent to one sexual activity, such as kissing, doesn’t mean that someone has the right to touch further in any way that makes one uncomfortable.

Resources:

While talking about these issues is important, if you or someone you know is at risk, it is critical to get help from either a trusted adult or a professional resource. Below are

some resources to enable you to seek information or additional professional help.

For immediate help:

Crisis Text Line: Text TALK to 741741; https://www.crisistextline.org/

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Talk or chat 1-800-273-TALK https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

Resources For further help or information:

Tips for watching and discussing Season 1 or Season 2:

  1. Hit pause and talk about an issue during an episode. Talking about the scenes as they take place can help young (and old) viewers frame the content in helpful ways.
  2. Discuss what you think is similar to what you’ve seen or experienced in your own life and what might be amplified for dramatic emphasis.
  3. Think about what might be missing that is typical in the real world, but not portrayed in the series. For example, how a teacher or school counselor you know may behave differently from those portrayed in the show.
  4. If there are scenes that feel uncomfortable to watch, don’t feel that you must. Similarly, if there is something you see that feels disturbing, talk with someone—a counselor, a parent, a trusted adult, or friend.
  5. Continue the conversation even after you are done with an episode. If you are a parent or young person concerned about a peer, listen for prompts from others that may indicate an interest in discussing the episode in greater detail. Prompts such as, “I was watching 13 Reasons Why last night” or a discussion about an actor in the show, could come in the classroom, at the dinner table, in the car, on the way to sports practice, or during homework time. At that point, you can say “tell me more” or “I am so glad that you are telling/asking me this.”

Discussion Questions:

  1. Do you think the characters in the show are behaving in ways that are similar to people you know? How so? How are they different?
  2. What do you think about what happened in this episode?
  3. Did parts of the story make you think about how people who are struggling do not show the full picture of what they are dealing with to others?
  4. What did you learn about “so-and so character’s” situation from this episode? For example, what did you learn about what happened to Jessica and sexual assault?
  5. How does what you have seen change how you view some things that happen in real life?
  6. Do you think the adults did anything wrong? What could they have done better?
  7. What would you do if you knew a friend were considering suicide or had been sexually assaulted?
  8. Who would you go to if you were experiencing any of the situations these teens went through?
  9. Have you ever felt the way that Hannah, Clay or any of the other characters feel? Which ones?
  10. Have you ever wanted to tell someone about a sexual assault or bullying but worried that it was tattling?
  11. How do you know when to offer compassion/support/empathy and when to set clear boundaries?